Conflict Resolution Consulting

Conflict Resolution Consulting

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Monday, June 22, 2015

Redeeming the "Mean Boss": Making Simple Changes in Workplace Behavior to go from Dysfunctional to Flourishing



This past Sunday, The New York Times published a thought provoking article regarding a perennial source of workplace conflict: the mean boss.  In her article, “No Time to be Nice at Work,” Professor Christine Porath paints an all too familiar picture: the harried management official who either cannot find the time to treat her colleagues with respect, or worries that being seen as “nice” will undermine her effectiveness in the workplace, and instead chooses to establish her authority by exercising what her colleagues perceive as rude behavior.  But as the research repeatedly points out, failing to take the time to acknowledge other people in the workplace with basic respect leads to the conflicts that prevent an organization from functioning, much less flourishing.

As Porath eloquently states, “How we treat one another at work matters. Insensitive interactions have a way of whittling away at people’s health, performance and souls.”

Unless you are dealing with a fundamentally bad person (which is rarely the case), the mean boss can be redeemed.  Simple behavior modifications, starting with the awareness of ineffective “mean boss” behaviors and deciding to change them, can make huge differences in the workplace, leading to significantly less conflict, higher employee engagement and increased productivity and effectiveness.

Porath’s article reminded me of a busy executive I worked with.  Although the team she led routinely met her organization’s goals, her staff reported high levels of dissatisfaction and her team faced high turnover rates.  One of the key problems, it turned out, was this executive’s inadvertent “mean boss” behaviors.

Like all busy professionals, this executive was addicted to multi-tasking.  This meant that she would routinely call in subordinates for meetings, but instead of focusing on what they had to report, she would often keep her back towards them, responding to emails and typing away at her computer while only half listening, and half responding, to what her staff had to say.  She would routinely interrupt her staff to make quick calls to her secretary, or attend to something else she felt was suddenly more pressing.  In her mind, she was doing it all, and she thought by demonstrating how busy she was at all times, her staff would understand and appreciate more what attention she could spare them.

Of course, her behaviors were having the exact opposite effect.  A simple audit of her staff revealed that her method of conducting meetings left employees feeling frustrated, disrespected and unheard.  Just as Porath’s article predicts, this eventually led to employees shutting down, or worse, leaving the organization. 

Luckily, this was a problem that could be addressed.  Upon realizing how this behavior was affecting her team, this executive could choose to conduct face to face meetings in a focused manner, without multitasking or performing in ways to demonstrate her busyness and authority.  By choosing instead to focus entirely on her employees during these meetings, her employees could now feel heard and respected, which increases their workplace engagement.  The additional benefit is that the added focused attention in meetings ensures that all relevant information was transferred between the manager and employees, leading to more thoughtful and effective decision making.  

Improved communication could put this team back on track.  All it takes is simple tweaks to fix “mean boss” behavior.

If you find yourself in a challenging work environment, or you are a busy manager who cannot understand why your employees appear to be routinely frustrated in the workplace, consider bringing in a workplace conflict resolution consultant.  After conducting a simple workplace audit to highlight areas of concerns and identify problem behaviors, you can then focus on making simple modifications to take your workplace from dysfunctional to flourishing.

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